Ask any of my friends and family members and they will tell you I am not the greatest fan of 50 shades of grey. That said I applaud the book for one thing, it has opened dialogue for alternative relationships. Granted the dialogue for most things related to 50 shades of grey is negative but it is dialogue and sometimes the hardest thing to do is start the conversation.
Conventional marriage is not the path for everyone. Sure it is great and works for many people but there are other people who it just does not work for. The sad thing is that there is a great deal of judgement around those who are in relationships that are not seen as “standard”. We saw a big break down of that in the US this week with marriage equality being passed but even same sex marriage is pretty standard compared to what other relationships are out there.
Seriously, try it some time and when someone asks your relationship status tell them you are in an Open relationship or a Triad..and see what the looks you get are. For those reading who don’t know here are the definitions.
Open relationship/marriage: An open relationship is an interpersonal relationship in which the parties want to be together but agree to a form of a non-monogamous relationship. This means that they agree that a romantic or intimate relationship with another person is accepted, permitted, or tolerated. Generally, an open relationship is when the parties involved have two or more romantic or sexual relationships occurring at the same time either as a short-term relationship, such as dating, or a long-term relationship, such as marriage. The concept of an open relationship has been recognized since the 1970s.
Triad: A form of Polyamory involving three partners. This can be any mixing of the genders.
Yeah if you say something like that to most people you will be looked at as if you have more then one head on your body. Worse you will often be judged. That is not always the case of course, some people will ask how it works and all of that. To those who are thinking that while reading this the simple answer is There have to be Rules, a firm set of rules that are set in place firmly and that are agreed to and followed by all of the partners involved.
So there you have the ramblings and thoughts of a mind at 5am after no sleep. Thanks for a bit of drivel for at least starting the conversation. Even if the start of that conversation starts out that Grey is an abusive A-hole. No arguments cause guess what, he is and while some aspects of the BDSM shown there are correct most of them are not especially when taken in from his POV.Real Dom’s act in a very adult manner and have perfect control of themselves, where he doesn’t.
Carry on with your regularly scheduled day.
